Image {Ice Cream & Peonies}
Happy Monday! So we set a date...
I'm delighted to announce that we now have a new wedding date!
Mr E and I will tying the knot on June 26th 2010.
12 weeks from now we say our vows in front of our family and friends. It's all very exciting and there is lots to do but I thank God that everything is finally coming together.
You may remember this post, well we now have option B, with a few enhancements. Fundamentally we have been given the opportunity and responsibility to organise the church wedding ourselves. My dad's words,
'this will be your first project together and we should allow you to do it'.This is huge turnaround and very liberating. Both parents have said they will not offer any unsolicited advice but are there if we need them and will be praying for us.
82 days and counting...
Weekend Wedding Love – Daddy’s girl
I'm not really a daddy's girl but I am looking forward to my dad walking me down the aisle and giving me away.
We have a family friend who told me he dreads the day he will have to give his daughter away {he only has one}. Not because he doesn't want to see her get married but because he loves her very much and it will be such a big thing to let her go. He just wants to make sure she will looked after.
I often wonder what it must be like for a father {or mother} when the time comes for them to let go and give their daughter away to another man.
It must be tough.
{Photo - Tunji Sarumi}
Celebrating Good Friday
This song has been on my heart all week. I just love the lyrics.
In the quiet, in the stillness
I know that You are God
In the secret of Your presence
I know there I am restored
When You call I won't refuse
Each new day again I'll choose
There is no one else for me
None but Jesus
Crucified to set me free
Now I live to bring Him praise
Today is Good Friday. A day to remember the amazing sacrifice God made for us, in allowing His son to die for our sins so that we can free.
Will you live to give him praise?
Telling it how it is
Over at Happy Nappy Bride, Dawn wrote this post about married folk being honest regarding the realities of marriage to the single/engaged population.
I agree.
The married generation do have a responsibility to advise those coming up behind them what it's all about, so that there are no delusions, disappointments or misinformed expectations and you enter marriage with your eyes wide open, fully prepared.
Take the whole wedding planning process for example. The magazines tell you it's one of the most exciting and fun times of your life. The majority of new wives who I have spoken to would disagree. I would disagree. Exciting - sometimes. Fun? Try stressful or maybe challenging! There are so many situations and issues which you have to contend with and it can be hard. The world expects you to keep smiling, when in fact you feel like going under your duvet and having a big cry.
The reality is, courtship is all about growing, maturing, making decisions about who you are as couple and sticking to them. It's about having disagreements but having the maturity to work it out and realise that yes, it is normal. It's about placing your relationship into God's hand and asking Him to guide you and give you wisdom.
Mr E and I really appreciate those couples who are honest with us and don't see life through rose-tinted spectacles, but tell it how it is.
Advice like:
- your wedding is just one day, your marriage will last a lifetime. Build your foundations.
- don't get into debt for your wedding, it's not worth it. Remember what's important.
- your wedding will NOT be the best day of your life {kinda glad about that one!} but enjoy it all the same.
- disagreements are not bad, it's how you handle them that is important. Try not to end the day without resolving your differences, communicate about EVERYTHING.
- marriage is not an easy ride. You will have to work at it, DAILY but the reward is great.
- love is a verb {not a feeling} and you choose to love.
And yes there will be days when you will wake up, look across the bed and not like the person you see.
This does not mean the love is gone...this is just marriage.
Married folk - tell it how it is...Post your pearls of wisdom in comments.
I agree.
The married generation do have a responsibility to advise those coming up behind them what it's all about, so that there are no delusions, disappointments or misinformed expectations and you enter marriage with your eyes wide open, fully prepared.
Take the whole wedding planning process for example. The magazines tell you it's one of the most exciting and fun times of your life. The majority of new wives who I have spoken to would disagree. I would disagree. Exciting - sometimes. Fun? Try stressful or maybe challenging! There are so many situations and issues which you have to contend with and it can be hard. The world expects you to keep smiling, when in fact you feel like going under your duvet and having a big cry.
The reality is, courtship is all about growing, maturing, making decisions about who you are as couple and sticking to them. It's about having disagreements but having the maturity to work it out and realise that yes, it is normal. It's about placing your relationship into God's hand and asking Him to guide you and give you wisdom.
Mr E and I really appreciate those couples who are honest with us and don't see life through rose-tinted spectacles, but tell it how it is.
Advice like:
- your wedding is just one day, your marriage will last a lifetime. Build your foundations.
- don't get into debt for your wedding, it's not worth it. Remember what's important.
- your wedding will NOT be the best day of your life {kinda glad about that one!} but enjoy it all the same.
- disagreements are not bad, it's how you handle them that is important. Try not to end the day without resolving your differences, communicate about EVERYTHING.
- marriage is not an easy ride. You will have to work at it, DAILY but the reward is great.
- love is a verb {not a feeling} and you choose to love.
And yes there will be days when you will wake up, look across the bed and not like the person you see.
This does not mean the love is gone...this is just marriage.
"Weddings are not marriages, and I wish they were. Weddings are to marriage as a single bamboo shoot is to a jungle, as a seashell is to the ocean floor: nice enough, not unrepresentative, and almost totally irrelevant. Marriage is all about the long road, about terror and disappointment, about recovery and contentment, about passions of all kinds. Weddings are about a party-- which is why I think marriage should be approached with blinking yellow lights, orange safety cones, and all other signs of great caution, and weddings should be encouraged as things apart." {Altared - by Colleen Curran}
Married folk - tell it how it is...Post your pearls of wisdom in comments.
