Friends First?

So there are two types of couples:

1. Couples who were friends first and then took it to the next level or

2. Couple who met, liked each other, started 'dating' and became friends

Which option would you prefer?

Either way, there is a common theme...friendship.

Now some of you might think, doesn't that automatically come with marriage? Well no, not necessarily. Yes you like each and decided to commit yourselves as husband and wife, but are you friends? There is a difference.

Afam and I learnt early on in our marriage, that we have to make a conscious effort to build on our friendship daily, otherwise it's very easy to drift apart and do our own thing.  I believe that in successful marriages, the two individuals have to be good friends {as well as lovers}. This is the foundation. 

What does this mean day to day? Well for us it means spending time with each other and effective communication. 

The only way for a friendship to develop is for the individuals to take time to get to know each other. Study each other, know what the other likes, dislikes. Do things together. Do things for each other. Share mutual hobbies and talk! Fundamentally it means involving each other more in the things that are important to you. Letting the other person into your life.

Without it marriage can become a very empty place.

What ways do you think couples can develop their friendships with each other?

p.s. thank you to the bloggers who have nominated me for a 'stylish and versatile blogger' award, I will post my '7 things' on Friday!

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