Choosing your battles...

Often in life there are things that we want, but can let go of, if needs be. Then there are things that we really want, that no amount of reasoning or substitutes would justify not having it, because they are important to who we are as a core.

This is how I feel this way about our wedding.

I am a fairly reasonable and flexible person, as is Mr E but there are certain parts of the day, which are non negotiable with us.

Things like our ceremony, which for us is the most important aspect. There are certain elements we want to include and certain people we would like to have involved. This is important to us and a reflection of who we are as a couple.

Then there are other things which we're not overly concerned about:
- location {Birmingham or Manchester}, we will go where the best venue is.
- outfits for our traditional wedding - we won't even see them until 3 days before the wedding as they are coming from Nigeria.
- non-uniformity amongst the bridesmaids. They won't be looking like clones, but will be able to reflect their individual styles.

At the end of the day, for the sake of peace you just choose your battles and only fight for the things that are really important to you as a couple and you really want.

Anybody who tells you it's 'your day' is not being realistic. Yes its your day as you are getting married, but it is your day with a whole lot of consideration for other people. Parents have their own ideas and expectations of how their child's wedding will be. As a couple you have your own. Respectfully over time you work together to marry them into one.

So...what are your non-negotiables?

p.s. went to do the gift registry yesterday. Not as fun as I thought it would be. Walking up and down a hot department store {in heels}, was not enjoyable. I much preferred doing it online!

p.p.s. ‘Great venue search’ update coming next week.

Have a great weekend all and look out for 'Wedding Weekend Love' tomorrow!