Weekend wedding love: Remembering the end game

Here is something I wrote a couple of weeks back, when I was having a bit of a rough day. Sometimes through it all, you need to remember the end game!

The Road to Marriage…

The road to marriage is hard. There are fights, there are tears, there are laughs, there are more fights. This whole period of time is about evolving, taking two very separate people and making them one.

There are bits of my personality that are coming out which I don’t like. I mean who is this person I see in the mirror. Sometimes I don’t recognise her.

The road to marriage opens old wounds, old hurts, old regrets. Things I thought had gone away, come back to the surface. Never forgotten, but gone away and it has be incredibly scary having to face them again.

The road to marriage has helped me appreciate so many things that before I didn’t really notice or even pay attention to before.  In sickness and in health, For richer for poorer. Till Do us part. How real these words are to me, right now.

The road to marriage is highlighting to me that it is no longer about me, but it is about us. Wedding starts with ‘we’ right!

The road to marriage is about redefining boundaries. Boundaries with your parents, boundaries with your friends, boundaries with each other. My love for my family has not changed but my loyalties have to and that has been hard. Marriage is about building a new family and just like a new baby it needs to be nurtured, taken cared of and protected.

The road to marriage is not what I expected. It isn’t always smiles. It can be incredibly frustrating. I have cried. I have laughed. You have to compromise and you have to pick your battles. It’s also not about taking sides but about doing what is right, for us.

On the road to marriage, it can be so easy to forgot why we’re doing all this.

I know it will be worth it in the end.

Have a great weekend!

Photo {Jide Alakija}