‘The List’ – You know you have one!

Kemi from Till My Dying day, wrote a post about 'The "Husband" list'. Every girl has her ‘list’. You know the one, the one you pray to God about before you meet that special someone.

I was looking through an old journal of mine and found ‘my list’.

Oh how I laughed. We girls don’t ask for much do we!

But God is faithful. God also knows us and knows what we need. He then proceeds to bless us with a person who will compliment us, support us, love us, just as HE loves us. If we trust Him and let Him do His thing.

I remember at the time of creating the list, God saying to me 'well that's all good and great, but what about you. You want all these things, but what have you got to offer my son?'. That challenged me and was the start of the change. The change in mindset, the change in thinking, the change in behaviour. I needed to stop 'looking' and just get on with my life. In His own time, God would bring the right man to me. Also if I want to attract the best husband, I need to become the best wife material.

Kemi talks about this in her post. If you want someone who is close to God, you yourself need to be close to God. If you want someone who has good family values, you too need to exhort those values yourself. 'And it's not changing yourself to suit any man, no, but more of finding out more about yourself, and then becoming a better version of you'. 

So for me, one of the main areas of development aside from improving my daily walk with God, was the need to be able to trust others and not depend on myself for everything. I am a very independent person who often thinks, 'yeh whatever I don't need any help'. At that time I thought my life was set; career, house, car, all waiting for a man to slot into the space I had created for him. I had a blueprint for my life and I expected everything {including a man} to better fall in line, or else!

But God rebuke me. 'No. It can't be like that. You can't be the leader in everything, that is not what I have called you to. You need to learn to trust others, work alongside them, support them. Open up your life, open up your heart'. 

'Unless a Lord builds a house, the labourers work in vain' Psalm 127:1

It was at this point when I made the decision to stop being a passenger in life. I looked at my life and start to make changes. I also got involved more in my church and began to serve.

God also challenged me in the area of selfishness and giving. It's easy to call yourself a Christian, but if your actions don't reflect that, you are a poor witness. This is where I would say I have experienced the biggest growth. It hasn't been easy but I'm grateful for the journey God is taking me on, because ultimately it is for his glory.

I have also familiarised myself with my kitchen learning to love the art of cooking and learning to be a home maker. That has surprised me the most as people who know me from back in the day, know that the most I ever did in my kitchen was go to the fridge and leave!

Fast forward and God has blessed me with a wonderful man in Mr E. It is also wonderful to see how He has fulfilled everything on that list.

When Mr E and I met, I knew he was a nice guy, but I liked him more as a friend. As I got to know him and know his personality, I remember telling my mum, 'yeh, he'll make a great husband for some lucky girl'. Little did I know that the lucky girl would me!

21.10.07 My List
1. Man of God, loves Him, Serves Him and has Him number one in his life
2. Family values
3. Professional and hardworking
4. Good dresser
5. Funny
6. Tall {than me}
7. Good with finances
8. Respectful
9. Patient
10. Loving, caring and honourable
11. Willing to try new things
12. Confident without arrogance
13. Attractive to me {but doesn’t know it!}
14. Driven and ambitious
15. A man of integrity
16. Good leader